The dictionary says -
Romance: Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love.
Romantic: 1. Of, relating to, or characteristic of romance. 2. Given to thoughts or feelings of romance.
I was recently thinking about romance and being romantic. For me, I love romance
and being romantic. In my opinion, when two people meet and feel mutually attracted to one another, eventually their relationship will blossom into a romance. Once the romance is established and allowed to flourish, then
love and caring grow as a result.
When two people realize that they both love and care deeply for each other, usually
they begin talking about marriage and children. Whether two loving people are married or not, when they are alone together, romance happens and desire blossoms. Once desire blossoms, then nature will take it’s course and
the two who are in love with each other will make love!
People who engage in either one night stands or affairs - aren’t making love -
but having sex. In order to make love - two people must be in love with each other. People who are just having flings, are just having sex. There is no close emotional connection. It’s just physical and without substance.
Personally, I prefer to make love because it is not only beautiful but because God
created it.
To be romantic with someone, in my opinion, happens when two people are in a romance.
The romantic “things” that we do for the one we love, inspires the recipient to be loving and giving in return. This too is a wonderful thing and usually leads to intimacy and love making.
What are some of the “romantic” things? Bringing flowers, or candy or something
special that the recipient will adore and appreciate. Also, doing an errand or a chore for the recipient as a surprise.
The most romantic “thing” that I appreciate is complete honesty. If two people
can’t be completely honest with one another - then there is a serious problem in that relationship. Now, I’m not saying that that relationship can’t be saved but it definitely needs counseling.
All in all, in my heart of hearts - I love romance and being romantic. Being in a
loving relationship (married or not) where both parties feel no need to seek out someone else, is the ultimate relationship.
For me, marriage is the ultimate romantic commitment between two people who desire
to be with each other - “until death they do part”.
1 Corinthians 13
New International Version (NIV)
13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all
knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does
not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
